Finding couples in the swinger lifestyle as a couple can be a very time-consuming and tedious task. But this time and effort, and even frustration, can produce some amazing relationships and lead to some very hot, sexy playtime. We are often asked what people can do to improve the odds of not only meeting another swinger couple but actually getting to playtime.
Try Some Swinger Lifestyle Websites
Between work and family commitments and even important hobbies, many of us don’t have time to spend every weekend hanging out at a local swingers club. While Omaha and Lincoln have regular swinger lifestyle meetups, these are often Fridays and Sundays and are super busy, so you don’t always get the opportunity to have a decent conversation with a couple you and your partner might be interested in.
This is why swinger lifestyle websites come in handy. You can sign up and begin messaging other couples from the comfort of your own home. You can try to get a feel for one another and see what you all have in common. There are some great swinger websites that work great for swingers in Nebraska.
Be Sure You Know What You Want Out of Swinging
To some of you, this will seem like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how often couples really have no idea what they really want. Sure, we all know we want great sex and adventure, but many couples, especially new couples, have no idea what this should look like. So before you sign up for a swingers website, be sure you and your partner know what it is you are looking for. Here are a few examples of questions you may want answers to:
- Are we looking to play together or separate?
- Are you wanting to all play together in the same room so you can scratch your voyeur and exhibitionist side? Do you enjoy watching your partner in the throes of passion? Or are you going to be more comfortable if you just come together after the play session is done?
- What is allowed and what sexual or emotional acts are not allowed?
- Are you okay with your partner kissing? Is anal sex allowed? Are you both comfortable with cuddling? These are all important things you as a couple want to be on the same page about before you begin looking for other couples.
- Swingers Parties or Just Casual Play?
- Something to consider as well is where and when play can happen. Be sure you know if you want to host a get-together at your own home or if you want to play at swingers parties or just get a hotel room for one-night encounters.
Build Your Swinger Website Profile Together
A huge red flag of most profiles on swingers websites are profiles that feature one partner more than the other. You will see profiles that only talk about the woman in the couple, usually about how much she likes to play with other women and how bisexual they are, and the husband’s interest and info is secondary.
Very male-centric profiles are often men who are sort of dragging their not-so-enthused partner along for the ride. Keep an eye out for red flags of them wanting to only talk to one of you and not really having their female side involved in any of the conversations. Profiles that talk about and highlight both of you are much more likely to attract like-minded couples looking for the same things you are.
Setup a Group Chat
Once you find that swinger couple that you really want to move to the next level, set up a group chat. Make sure you are all in the chat and are openly communicating. If the other couple goes low to no response or one partner is just not jumping into the conversation, you might be wasting your time and you might want to go back to the drawing board. A group chat is a great way to get everyone on the same page and keep communication open and above board. It takes a lot of pressure off our next topic.
Setup a Low-Pressure Meeting
Set up a date and time that you all can get together at a location outside of a swingers meetup or swingers club. Set up a dinner date or bowling and make it in a location where you can all actually talk to one another. Movies and live music shows make this sort of talk very difficult. Just remember family stuff and work can often mess up the best-laid plans.
We hope that these tips and tricks help you find another couple to have a lot of sexy fun with if that is what you are looking for.